1 00:04:25,749 --> 00:02:13,760 [Music] 2 00:04:30,629 --> 00:04:28,230 welcome to center light all you sexy 3 00:04:32,710 --> 00:04:30,639 human creatures keith anthony blanchard 4 00:04:35,430 --> 00:04:32,720 here also known as 5 00:04:38,230 --> 00:04:35,440 janava i am it's good to see you center 6 00:04:40,710 --> 00:04:38,240 of light foundation radio 7 00:04:43,350 --> 00:04:40,720 i've done it for so many years 8 00:04:45,510 --> 00:04:43,360 lots and hundreds thousands love every 9 00:04:47,830 --> 00:04:45,520 one of them i learned through everyone i 10 00:04:50,150 --> 00:04:47,840 learned from every one of you 11 00:04:52,230 --> 00:04:50,160 i had to breathe so i'm pacing myself 12 00:04:54,150 --> 00:04:52,240 i'm doing two at most a month 13 00:04:55,430 --> 00:04:54,160 it makes me look forward to it's like 14 00:04:57,830 --> 00:04:55,440 you know hearing your favorite song 15 00:04:59,110 --> 00:04:57,840 sweet home alabama so much you just 16 00:05:01,110 --> 00:04:59,120 don't want to hear it anymore no matter 17 00:05:02,550 --> 00:05:01,120 how fantastic the song really is in 18 00:05:04,270 --> 00:05:02,560 context 19 00:05:05,430 --> 00:05:04,280 i'm tired of pour some sugar on me 20 00:05:07,029 --> 00:05:05,440 [Laughter] 21 00:05:08,830 --> 00:05:07,039 all right kind of thing welcome to 22 00:05:11,350 --> 00:05:08,840 center of lights always good to see you 23 00:05:13,990 --> 00:05:11,360 everyone center light foundation is 24 00:05:15,590 --> 00:05:14,000 graduating 25 00:05:16,870 --> 00:05:15,600 who is the center final the center of 26 00:05:18,070 --> 00:05:16,880 light foundation 27 00:05:20,310 --> 00:05:18,080 it's you 28 00:05:21,749 --> 00:05:20,320 you are the center of light foundation 29 00:05:24,469 --> 00:05:21,759 it's all of us 30 00:05:25,909 --> 00:05:24,479 as we sit in the seat of the we sit on 31 00:05:28,469 --> 00:05:25,919 the throne 32 00:05:29,990 --> 00:05:28,479 of your highest version of yourself 33 00:05:31,590 --> 00:05:30,000 and you feel really good about it so 34 00:05:33,990 --> 00:05:31,600 good about it you keep turning within 35 00:05:35,830 --> 00:05:34,000 yourself to greater expressions and you 36 00:05:37,830 --> 00:05:35,840 expand and you expand so all this 37 00:05:39,110 --> 00:05:37,840 deliciousness you never thought you 38 00:05:40,790 --> 00:05:39,120 could taste like 39 00:05:42,790 --> 00:05:40,800 that's the kind of magic 40 00:05:44,790 --> 00:05:42,800 i am shooting for 41 00:05:46,150 --> 00:05:44,800 every day every possible way 42 00:05:47,670 --> 00:05:46,160 center of life is growing thanks i'm 43 00:05:49,110 --> 00:05:47,680 going to say doctor katie come here 44 00:05:51,430 --> 00:05:49,120 everyone keep dr k 45 00:05:52,790 --> 00:05:51,440 all i have to do is say kk 46 00:05:54,230 --> 00:05:52,800 dr keke 47 00:05:57,510 --> 00:05:54,240 she's went through a surgery recently 48 00:06:00,309 --> 00:05:57,520 she's my partner for the foundation 49 00:06:01,670 --> 00:06:00,319 and she's going to be fine but having 50 00:06:03,510 --> 00:06:01,680 the procedure that was done it's a 51 00:06:05,590 --> 00:06:03,520 little wonky in her body 52 00:06:08,790 --> 00:06:05,600 to be her right now until she gets 53 00:06:10,710 --> 00:06:08,800 everything balanced settled in 54 00:06:12,790 --> 00:06:10,720 center of light foundation fundraiser 55 00:06:14,390 --> 00:06:12,800 right there it's doing well people are 56 00:06:16,550 --> 00:06:14,400 chiming in people wanting greater 57 00:06:18,550 --> 00:06:16,560 expressions of that very self i just 58 00:06:21,029 --> 00:06:18,560 mentioned a little bit ago 59 00:06:22,309 --> 00:06:21,039 what does a mirror uh miracle look like 60 00:06:24,469 --> 00:06:22,319 well go look in the mirror it's a 61 00:06:27,590 --> 00:06:24,479 miracle you look in the mirror to call 62 00:06:28,790 --> 00:06:27,600 back to yourself it's a miracle miracle 63 00:06:30,309 --> 00:06:28,800 that's what you were let me tell you 64 00:06:33,110 --> 00:06:30,319 about my guest tonight on center of 65 00:06:35,510 --> 00:06:33,120 light radio stephanie grace 66 00:06:37,430 --> 00:06:35,520 she comes from a long line of john hunt 67 00:06:39,909 --> 00:06:37,440 publishing authors like material she's 68 00:06:41,350 --> 00:06:39,919 from the old book division 69 00:06:42,950 --> 00:06:41,360 we're going to be speaking about her 70 00:06:44,629 --> 00:06:42,960 brand new book i don't know how many 71 00:06:46,710 --> 00:06:44,639 books she has i don't like learning too 72 00:06:48,550 --> 00:06:46,720 much about the guests i don't read their 73 00:06:51,110 --> 00:06:48,560 books not because they're not deserving 74 00:06:53,670 --> 00:06:51,120 of it i just i like it being organic i 75 00:06:55,990 --> 00:06:53,680 like the the fresh hit if you will i'm 76 00:06:57,990 --> 00:06:56,000 going to be speaking about her book 77 00:06:59,510 --> 00:06:58,000 creating real happiness 78 00:07:00,710 --> 00:06:59,520 a to z 79 00:07:02,950 --> 00:07:00,720 she says 80 00:07:04,950 --> 00:07:02,960 you are worthy of love and acceptance or 81 00:07:07,029 --> 00:07:04,960 maybe this is someone who gave a review 82 00:07:09,749 --> 00:07:07,039 either way it's applicable i did a 83 00:07:14,629 --> 00:07:09,759 presentation two nights ago and the main 84 00:07:20,469 --> 00:07:16,870 is the level of a covenant you can ever 85 00:07:24,309 --> 00:07:22,230 i don't feel deserving oh my god i'm 86 00:07:26,309 --> 00:07:24,319 gonna go to hell if i die and all these 87 00:07:28,309 --> 00:07:26,319 kinds of ways we can spin and fragment 88 00:07:29,350 --> 00:07:28,319 this erroneous 89 00:07:31,830 --> 00:07:29,360 false 90 00:07:33,909 --> 00:07:31,840 idea what you feel you deserve 91 00:07:36,309 --> 00:07:33,919 deepens the covenant that you have with 92 00:07:37,909 --> 00:07:36,319 god really yourself 93 00:07:40,150 --> 00:07:37,919 you will never know god until you know 94 00:07:42,390 --> 00:07:40,160 yourself how can you reach the majesty 95 00:07:45,430 --> 00:07:42,400 if we don't understand what the heck 96 00:07:46,790 --> 00:07:45,440 this finite little puny self is right 97 00:07:48,710 --> 00:07:46,800 so 98 00:07:50,390 --> 00:07:48,720 what you feel you deserve you are worthy 99 00:07:53,110 --> 00:07:50,400 of love and acceptance creating real 100 00:07:55,430 --> 00:07:53,120 happiness a to z is a wonderful daily 101 00:07:58,469 --> 00:07:55,440 guide to help you be in the moment and 102 00:08:00,230 --> 00:07:58,479 find peace in the here now right here 103 00:08:02,309 --> 00:08:00,240 right now where are you going you 104 00:08:06,790 --> 00:08:02,319 actually walking a linear timeline 105 00:08:08,869 --> 00:08:06,800 forward only to come back to right now 106 00:08:11,670 --> 00:08:08,879 stephanie's story is especially poignant 107 00:08:13,510 --> 00:08:11,680 and her experience of coming home 108 00:08:17,029 --> 00:08:13,520 to herself as an incredible inspiration 109 00:08:19,670 --> 00:08:17,039 for everyone questioning if they have 110 00:08:22,309 --> 00:08:19,680 what it takes to heal 111 00:08:23,749 --> 00:08:22,319 i just read that and i'm gonna actually 112 00:08:26,629 --> 00:08:23,759 change it a little bit by putting three 113 00:08:29,029 --> 00:08:26,639 underlines three exclamation points 114 00:08:32,230 --> 00:08:29,039 italics bold print if you have what it 115 00:08:35,509 --> 00:08:33,589 this was about her book this is about 116 00:08:37,430 --> 00:08:35,519 stephanie stephanie grace is an author 117 00:08:38,949 --> 00:08:37,440 motivational speaker therapist of and 118 00:08:41,350 --> 00:08:38,959 mindful ex 119 00:08:43,110 --> 00:08:41,360 mindfulness expert she has used 120 00:08:45,110 --> 00:08:43,120 self-exploration and mindfulness to 121 00:08:46,550 --> 00:08:45,120 overcome any adversities including 122 00:08:50,710 --> 00:08:46,560 addiction 123 00:08:52,150 --> 00:08:50,720 and remnants of a traumatic upbringing 124 00:08:54,070 --> 00:08:52,160 we all have some 125 00:08:56,949 --> 00:08:54,080 some junkies in a drunkard 126 00:08:59,269 --> 00:08:56,959 to live a more vital inspired and 127 00:09:00,630 --> 00:08:59,279 fulfilling life through her personal 128 00:09:02,230 --> 00:09:00,640 inner work 129 00:09:04,870 --> 00:09:02,240 and with hundreds of her clients 130 00:09:07,190 --> 00:09:04,880 stephanie knows that everyone 131 00:09:10,230 --> 00:09:07,200 can experience the freedom of living 132 00:09:12,310 --> 00:09:10,240 life as their true self 133 00:09:14,310 --> 00:09:12,320 free from judgment and past conditioning 134 00:09:16,630 --> 00:09:14,320 to feel joy and happiness every day she 135 00:09:17,750 --> 00:09:16,640 has made it her life's mission as many 136 00:09:20,470 --> 00:09:17,760 of us do 137 00:09:21,910 --> 00:09:20,480 and he had enough yet enough 138 00:09:23,430 --> 00:09:21,920 life's mission to create helpful 139 00:09:26,150 --> 00:09:23,440 accessible and 140 00:09:27,910 --> 00:09:26,160 easily applied tools to make 141 00:09:29,590 --> 00:09:27,920 whole-hearted living possible for all 142 00:09:31,750 --> 00:09:29,600 people everywhere there's a little more 143 00:09:34,870 --> 00:09:31,760 but i think we get the beautiful package 144 00:09:37,590 --> 00:09:34,880 that's about to unfold 145 00:09:39,910 --> 00:09:37,600 um everyone her book is now available on 146 00:09:41,190 --> 00:09:39,920 amazon as well as john hunt publishing 147 00:09:44,070 --> 00:09:41,200 dot com 148 00:09:44,949 --> 00:09:44,080 type in the search bar 149 00:09:48,470 --> 00:09:44,959 um 150 00:09:50,949 --> 00:09:48,480 stephanie no e in the end grace 151 00:09:53,590 --> 00:09:50,959 and find your place all over her website 152 00:09:55,110 --> 00:09:53,600 let her know you exist make a big stink 153 00:09:57,350 --> 00:09:55,120 everyone uh welcome sooner or later 154 00:09:59,990 --> 00:09:57,360 stephanie grace 155 00:10:02,870 --> 00:10:00,000 hello thank you so much for having me 156 00:10:04,389 --> 00:10:02,880 how is you i'm doing great yeah i'm 157 00:10:05,190 --> 00:10:04,399 happy to be here 158 00:10:07,590 --> 00:10:05,200 yeah 159 00:10:11,030 --> 00:10:07,600 you how many books do you have i just 160 00:10:13,030 --> 00:10:11,040 have this one this is my very first book 161 00:10:14,630 --> 00:10:13,040 how long did it take 162 00:10:16,389 --> 00:10:14,640 you know writing the book didn't 163 00:10:18,710 --> 00:10:16,399 actually take that that long you know i 164 00:10:22,550 --> 00:10:18,720 kind of worked on it a little bit 165 00:10:25,190 --> 00:10:22,560 over a a year or two and um but the the 166 00:10:26,710 --> 00:10:25,200 part that's the trickiest is is finding 167 00:10:28,949 --> 00:10:26,720 a publisher and then once you get a 168 00:10:31,110 --> 00:10:28,959 publisher is that that process takes a 169 00:10:34,710 --> 00:10:31,120 year so it's been about three years 170 00:10:39,110 --> 00:10:37,350 why a book i i you know you using the 171 00:10:40,790 --> 00:10:39,120 bathroom one day you're cooking food or 172 00:10:43,190 --> 00:10:40,800 driving in your car i think i'm going to 173 00:10:45,910 --> 00:10:43,200 write a book did this happen for you 174 00:10:46,870 --> 00:10:45,920 i'm assuming like like me and many of 175 00:10:47,990 --> 00:10:46,880 the we 176 00:10:51,350 --> 00:10:48,000 we come into this state of 177 00:10:54,230 --> 00:10:51,360 self-realization at least our damnedest 178 00:10:55,269 --> 00:10:54,240 to walk such the bravery to walk such a 179 00:10:57,670 --> 00:10:55,279 path 180 00:10:59,430 --> 00:10:57,680 is because of things were just really 181 00:11:01,750 --> 00:10:59,440 wonky and not good for you is that would 182 00:11:03,509 --> 00:11:01,760 that be a true statement that that is 183 00:11:06,550 --> 00:11:03,519 true yeah that is a true statement for 184 00:11:09,750 --> 00:11:06,560 me as well yeah um i had a really 185 00:11:11,670 --> 00:11:09,760 challenging upbringing and um faced a 186 00:11:13,790 --> 00:11:11,680 lot of difficulty and adversity which 187 00:11:16,230 --> 00:11:13,800 brought me to my own path of 188 00:11:19,590 --> 00:11:16,240 spirituality and self-growth and that 189 00:11:21,670 --> 00:11:19,600 led me to wanting to be a counselor to 190 00:11:23,990 --> 00:11:21,680 bring my you know what i learned to 191 00:11:26,389 --> 00:11:24,000 others and then i reached a point where 192 00:11:28,310 --> 00:11:26,399 i felt like i wanted to reach more 193 00:11:30,230 --> 00:11:28,320 people i felt like i wanted to do more 194 00:11:33,190 --> 00:11:30,240 than just one-on-one and so 195 00:11:35,430 --> 00:11:33,200 um it yeah i decided to write a book and 196 00:11:38,150 --> 00:11:35,440 so my book creating real happiness a to 197 00:11:39,750 --> 00:11:38,160 z is basically all the things that have 198 00:11:42,230 --> 00:11:39,760 worked for me in my own life and then 199 00:11:44,470 --> 00:11:42,240 the things that i've been able to help 200 00:11:47,829 --> 00:11:44,480 others with in their lives i put it all 201 00:11:50,069 --> 00:11:47,839 into a nice little approachable book 202 00:11:52,870 --> 00:11:50,079 to hopefully reach more people and 203 00:11:54,829 --> 00:11:52,880 inspire others 204 00:11:58,550 --> 00:11:54,839 would this be a true statement at the 205 00:12:00,870 --> 00:11:58,560 beginning how long ago did this 206 00:12:02,150 --> 00:12:00,880 change in direction start how long ago 207 00:12:05,030 --> 00:12:02,160 was that for you 208 00:12:05,829 --> 00:12:05,040 um years 12 years you mean in terms of 209 00:12:06,870 --> 00:12:05,839 um 210 00:12:08,470 --> 00:12:06,880 me 211 00:12:09,430 --> 00:12:08,480 doing my own spiritual becoming 212 00:12:13,590 --> 00:12:09,440 conscious 213 00:12:16,150 --> 00:12:13,600 path yeah well interestingly enough i 214 00:12:17,910 --> 00:12:16,160 have always been this um voracious 215 00:12:20,470 --> 00:12:17,920 seeker like i mean as early as i can 216 00:12:21,990 --> 00:12:20,480 remember i've been interested in like 217 00:12:26,629 --> 00:12:22,000 spirituality 218 00:12:29,190 --> 00:12:26,639 and um religion buddhism and i would say 219 00:12:30,230 --> 00:12:29,200 i started on that path right you know in 220 00:12:33,910 --> 00:12:30,240 my 221 00:12:35,509 --> 00:12:33,920 late 20s or i mean late teens early 20s 222 00:12:38,150 --> 00:12:35,519 i started learning about buddhism and 223 00:12:39,269 --> 00:12:38,160 meditation and on that path but really i 224 00:12:41,350 --> 00:12:39,279 would say 225 00:12:43,509 --> 00:12:41,360 you know um 226 00:12:46,069 --> 00:12:43,519 major shift happened 227 00:12:48,550 --> 00:12:46,079 around probably 12 years ago i think my 228 00:12:50,310 --> 00:12:48,560 divorce was like a moment of like 229 00:12:53,430 --> 00:12:50,320 life-altering 230 00:12:58,629 --> 00:12:53,440 time for me you know 231 00:13:03,350 --> 00:13:01,509 when the thoughts of 232 00:13:05,030 --> 00:13:03,360 hey i'm interested in writing writing a 233 00:13:07,430 --> 00:13:05,040 book and then they deepened a little bit 234 00:13:09,350 --> 00:13:07,440 too you are going to write a book 235 00:13:11,269 --> 00:13:09,360 question point is on the backside of 236 00:13:13,509 --> 00:13:11,279 that from where we are now 237 00:13:15,190 --> 00:13:13,519 in hindsight when you wanted to write 238 00:13:16,230 --> 00:13:15,200 that book because you know yes amigo 239 00:13:19,430 --> 00:13:16,240 involved i want to be an author it 240 00:13:21,430 --> 00:13:19,440 sounds cool i like the idea of all of it 241 00:13:24,069 --> 00:13:21,440 but would you say now in hindsight it's 242 00:13:26,069 --> 00:13:24,079 a cult you can see it as a calling 243 00:13:27,910 --> 00:13:26,079 oh i very much do i mean i can tell you 244 00:13:30,470 --> 00:13:27,920 the exact moment i was actually taking a 245 00:13:32,870 --> 00:13:30,480 bath like in the bath and just had like 246 00:13:34,949 --> 00:13:32,880 a direct knowing of like like that was 247 00:13:36,870 --> 00:13:34,959 how i got the idea to do it a to z like 248 00:13:38,949 --> 00:13:36,880 i all of a sudden just had this idea of 249 00:13:41,509 --> 00:13:38,959 like oh i should write a book and do it 250 00:13:43,670 --> 00:13:41,519 a to z to make it like easy for people 251 00:13:45,350 --> 00:13:43,680 and just like it just came to me and i 252 00:13:47,430 --> 00:13:45,360 i've always sort of felt like i just 253 00:13:49,430 --> 00:13:47,440 kind of knew that it was going to happen 254 00:13:50,949 --> 00:13:49,440 because i felt like it came to me in 255 00:13:54,069 --> 00:13:50,959 sort of a divine 256 00:13:55,910 --> 00:13:54,079 way and i just i just knew that it 257 00:13:58,470 --> 00:13:55,920 for some reason is meant to go out there 258 00:14:00,629 --> 00:13:58,480 in the world 259 00:14:04,230 --> 00:14:00,639 well let's dive right into that and make 260 00:14:06,710 --> 00:14:04,240 a sandwich uh uh creating happiness a to 261 00:14:08,230 --> 00:14:06,720 z sammich 262 00:14:13,829 --> 00:14:08,240 everyone 263 00:14:15,509 --> 00:14:13,839 knows oodles of people that ask the most 264 00:14:17,910 --> 00:14:15,519 to them at that time in their life it's 265 00:14:22,150 --> 00:14:17,920 a very important question which is 266 00:14:24,069 --> 00:14:22,160 how do i find the love of my life 267 00:14:26,870 --> 00:14:24,079 where's my soul mate i'm just starting 268 00:14:28,470 --> 00:14:26,880 my spiritual walk so i have a twin flame 269 00:14:32,150 --> 00:14:28,480 or a soulmate 270 00:14:33,910 --> 00:14:32,160 that's a very very popular question in 271 00:14:36,470 --> 00:14:33,920 the movement when it comes to any level 272 00:14:37,750 --> 00:14:36,480 of spirituality or psychism so how do 273 00:14:39,829 --> 00:14:37,760 you find 274 00:14:42,389 --> 00:14:39,839 that particular person yeah good 275 00:14:43,750 --> 00:14:42,399 question i love this question because so 276 00:14:46,790 --> 00:14:43,760 many people are 277 00:14:49,670 --> 00:14:46,800 searching for their soulmate or the love 278 00:14:52,629 --> 00:14:49,680 of their life and so i think what what 279 00:14:54,790 --> 00:14:52,639 is really important first of all is if 280 00:14:57,509 --> 00:14:54,800 this is something that that you are 281 00:15:00,310 --> 00:14:57,519 seeking are are really looking for the 282 00:15:02,870 --> 00:15:00,320 first thing is like be really clear on 283 00:15:05,590 --> 00:15:02,880 what it is that looks like like 284 00:15:07,189 --> 00:15:05,600 what does your ideal person look like 285 00:15:09,829 --> 00:15:07,199 right and so 286 00:15:12,230 --> 00:15:09,839 then if this fantastic 287 00:15:14,790 --> 00:15:12,240 wonderful human comes knocking at your 288 00:15:17,269 --> 00:15:14,800 door how do you feel about it do you 289 00:15:19,430 --> 00:15:17,279 feel ready for them do you feel excited 290 00:15:21,670 --> 00:15:19,440 are you like okay i'm re i'm ready for 291 00:15:23,750 --> 00:15:21,680 you come on in or 292 00:15:26,230 --> 00:15:23,760 do you feel like oh i don't know if that 293 00:15:28,310 --> 00:15:26,240 person would want me i don't know if i 294 00:15:30,550 --> 00:15:28,320 would be worthy of that person so these 295 00:15:33,269 --> 00:15:30,560 are a couple of good things to explore 296 00:15:35,509 --> 00:15:33,279 if you if you're not finding them and 297 00:15:38,949 --> 00:15:35,519 and you're not you know you don't feel 298 00:15:41,509 --> 00:15:38,959 that you are ready then i'm guessing it 299 00:15:45,430 --> 00:15:41,519 means that you need to first be your 300 00:15:47,430 --> 00:15:45,440 ideal partner you need to first um 301 00:15:49,509 --> 00:15:47,440 feel that way about yourself and so in 302 00:15:51,590 --> 00:15:49,519 order to find your ideal partner it's 303 00:15:53,749 --> 00:15:51,600 important that we spend time alone and 304 00:15:55,910 --> 00:15:53,759 sometimes we we really don't want to do 305 00:15:58,550 --> 00:15:55,920 that but it's the most important time 306 00:16:01,590 --> 00:15:58,560 that we have is when we are alone 307 00:16:03,030 --> 00:16:01,600 without a partner it allows us to create 308 00:16:04,949 --> 00:16:03,040 that important relationship with 309 00:16:07,509 --> 00:16:04,959 ourselves to be our own best friend to 310 00:16:09,030 --> 00:16:07,519 be our ideal partner and so the thing is 311 00:16:11,189 --> 00:16:09,040 is you are going to get lonely and 312 00:16:12,230 --> 00:16:11,199 that's okay and you are going to have 313 00:16:13,189 --> 00:16:12,240 all these 314 00:16:15,430 --> 00:16:13,199 different 315 00:16:17,430 --> 00:16:15,440 experiences when you're on your own and 316 00:16:19,829 --> 00:16:17,440 that's when you learn how to show up for 317 00:16:21,430 --> 00:16:19,839 yourself in the way that you most need 318 00:16:24,949 --> 00:16:21,440 and you you learn to accept that 319 00:16:27,910 --> 00:16:24,959 whatever you're experiencing is is okay 320 00:16:31,509 --> 00:16:27,920 so you're saying basically um 321 00:16:34,150 --> 00:16:31,519 it's about making oneself available 322 00:16:35,829 --> 00:16:34,160 because until then nothing happens it 323 00:16:37,430 --> 00:16:35,839 can approach you but you're not going to 324 00:16:40,150 --> 00:16:37,440 allow yourself to 325 00:16:43,110 --> 00:16:40,160 engage because simply not available 326 00:16:44,870 --> 00:16:43,120 would that be a liken a parallel yeah i 327 00:16:46,790 --> 00:16:44,880 think you're exactly right right it's 328 00:16:48,550 --> 00:16:46,800 like you're not if you don't believe 329 00:16:50,310 --> 00:16:48,560 you're worthy of who you desire then 330 00:16:51,990 --> 00:16:50,320 you're you're not worthy you're not i 331 00:16:54,230 --> 00:16:52,000 mean you're not going to 332 00:16:56,550 --> 00:16:54,240 and you're not ready as well you're just 333 00:16:59,350 --> 00:16:56,560 simply not ready you're not ready a 334 00:17:01,030 --> 00:16:59,360 perfect story very long story short an 335 00:17:03,670 --> 00:17:01,040 old girlfriend of mine 336 00:17:05,270 --> 00:17:03,680 called me to complain about her recent 337 00:17:06,390 --> 00:17:05,280 boyfriends then after we had been split 338 00:17:08,230 --> 00:17:06,400 up for years 339 00:17:09,829 --> 00:17:08,240 because she knew the work i was doing 340 00:17:11,510 --> 00:17:09,839 hey keith i need some thoughts 341 00:17:13,510 --> 00:17:11,520 absolutely 342 00:17:15,510 --> 00:17:13,520 these guys they 343 00:17:16,870 --> 00:17:15,520 right and the guy she really wants and 344 00:17:19,189 --> 00:17:16,880 describes to me 345 00:17:20,549 --> 00:17:19,199 there's a stereotypical picture so one 346 00:17:22,549 --> 00:17:20,559 night i'm playing music and she's at the 347 00:17:24,470 --> 00:17:22,559 bar and i'm watching her 348 00:17:26,309 --> 00:17:24,480 guy number one she's making all kinds of 349 00:17:27,990 --> 00:17:26,319 goo-goo eyes and flirting and batting 350 00:17:29,510 --> 00:17:28,000 eyelashes and that's the guy she's 351 00:17:31,590 --> 00:17:29,520 complaining about 352 00:17:33,110 --> 00:17:31,600 right and the guy over here so 353 00:17:34,789 --> 00:17:33,120 desperately trying to get her attention 354 00:17:36,150 --> 00:17:34,799 to buy a drink and she's a she's not 355 00:17:37,990 --> 00:17:36,160 interested in him 356 00:17:40,470 --> 00:17:38,000 you know the guy the blue collar i mean 357 00:17:41,350 --> 00:17:40,480 the college shirt and just whatever 358 00:17:47,270 --> 00:17:41,360 it 359 00:17:48,070 --> 00:17:47,280 available 360 00:17:52,549 --> 00:17:48,080 yeah 361 00:17:54,870 --> 00:17:52,559 it's like once we we just we're open to 362 00:17:56,470 --> 00:17:54,880 something it's funny how we'll see the 363 00:17:58,789 --> 00:17:56,480 signs everywhere we could have been 364 00:18:00,630 --> 00:17:58,799 walking past the sign for for something 365 00:18:02,070 --> 00:18:00,640 that we need like i don't know a car or 366 00:18:04,070 --> 00:18:02,080 whatever all of a sudden it's like oh 367 00:18:05,669 --> 00:18:04,080 once we're open we see we see them 368 00:18:08,390 --> 00:18:05,679 everywhere we see it you know we see the 369 00:18:09,990 --> 00:18:08,400 opportunities come come to us 370 00:18:13,430 --> 00:18:10,000 yeah 371 00:18:16,950 --> 00:18:13,440 we are not the ego we discovering our 372 00:18:23,510 --> 00:18:17,750 yeah 373 00:18:26,710 --> 00:18:23,520 that would be a great topic and i love 374 00:18:29,430 --> 00:18:26,720 that you are not your ego discovering 375 00:18:30,630 --> 00:18:29,440 your true self 376 00:18:36,470 --> 00:18:30,640 yeah 377 00:18:37,830 --> 00:18:36,480 we are all divine i believe that we are 378 00:18:43,669 --> 00:18:37,840 born 379 00:18:48,150 --> 00:18:43,679 that we are nothing but love that we are 380 00:18:49,350 --> 00:18:48,160 worthy of all we desire and what happens 381 00:18:52,070 --> 00:18:49,360 is that 382 00:18:55,350 --> 00:18:52,080 we begin to get conditioning from our 383 00:18:57,830 --> 00:18:55,360 our families and and the world about 384 00:18:58,789 --> 00:18:57,840 who we need to be in the world in order 385 00:19:02,470 --> 00:18:58,799 to be 386 00:19:04,710 --> 00:19:02,480 accepted and loved and we begin to 387 00:19:06,710 --> 00:19:04,720 identify with that conditioning as our 388 00:19:09,190 --> 00:19:06,720 truth and 389 00:19:11,270 --> 00:19:09,200 we usually don't begin to understand 390 00:19:13,110 --> 00:19:11,280 that we are not our conditioning until 391 00:19:15,110 --> 00:19:13,120 we've had enough of suffering or enough 392 00:19:17,029 --> 00:19:15,120 of being unhappy and then we're like hmm 393 00:19:19,110 --> 00:19:17,039 maybe there's a different way you know 394 00:19:21,350 --> 00:19:19,120 and maybe we go to a counselor or we 395 00:19:22,870 --> 00:19:21,360 start reading what whatever but we you 396 00:19:25,510 --> 00:19:22,880 know the important piece for us to 397 00:19:28,310 --> 00:19:25,520 understand is that that truth of who we 398 00:19:30,630 --> 00:19:28,320 are that divine self has never gone away 399 00:19:33,270 --> 00:19:30,640 is always our truth and so it's like 400 00:19:34,789 --> 00:19:33,280 coming home to that coming home and and 401 00:19:37,430 --> 00:19:34,799 understanding that that conditioning 402 00:19:39,990 --> 00:19:37,440 we've received that develops our ego 403 00:19:41,909 --> 00:19:40,000 isn't our truth and how could something 404 00:19:47,190 --> 00:19:41,919 that is so mean and you know often 405 00:19:53,270 --> 00:19:48,470 yeah 406 00:19:54,390 --> 00:19:53,280 no i am looking in the mirror 407 00:19:55,830 --> 00:19:54,400 um 408 00:19:57,350 --> 00:19:55,840 is there one thing that we can do that 409 00:19:59,350 --> 00:19:57,360 could change our life i mean i 410 00:20:01,110 --> 00:19:59,360 understand 411 00:20:03,270 --> 00:20:01,120 there are no shortcuts 412 00:20:04,710 --> 00:20:03,280 and even if there is a shortcut that 413 00:20:06,230 --> 00:20:04,720 gives me an at least an immediate 414 00:20:07,909 --> 00:20:06,240 gratification i'm gonna take that 415 00:20:09,669 --> 00:20:07,919 biscuit i'm gonna get it 416 00:20:12,149 --> 00:20:09,679 right 417 00:20:14,149 --> 00:20:12,159 is there any particular one thing that 418 00:20:16,870 --> 00:20:14,159 you'd support suggest offer that we can 419 00:20:18,390 --> 00:20:16,880 do to exponentiate our growth that would 420 00:20:19,909 --> 00:20:18,400 change our life in such a way because 421 00:20:21,510 --> 00:20:19,919 everything changes our lives even the 422 00:20:22,310 --> 00:20:21,520 horrible changes our lives it just 423 00:20:24,310 --> 00:20:22,320 takes 424 00:20:25,909 --> 00:20:24,320 a whole long radiation of time but 425 00:20:27,510 --> 00:20:25,919 changing our life meaning like wow i've 426 00:20:30,070 --> 00:20:27,520 been doing this for a month or kind of 427 00:20:31,990 --> 00:20:30,080 thing and i just had this amazing 428 00:20:33,750 --> 00:20:32,000 yeah definitely i mean one thing i 429 00:20:36,230 --> 00:20:33,760 always tell people if you're only going 430 00:20:38,310 --> 00:20:36,240 to listen to one thing i say this is 431 00:20:41,029 --> 00:20:38,320 what i recommend and i'll tell you two 432 00:20:42,549 --> 00:20:41,039 things so 433 00:20:45,270 --> 00:20:42,559 but the the first thing i would 434 00:20:47,430 --> 00:20:45,280 recommend is like 435 00:20:49,110 --> 00:20:47,440 do gratitude practice you're going to 436 00:20:50,950 --> 00:20:49,120 get great if you do gratitude practice 437 00:20:52,470 --> 00:20:50,960 you get the most bang for your buck and 438 00:20:54,470 --> 00:20:52,480 the reason why i said and if you don't 439 00:20:57,350 --> 00:20:54,480 like the word gratitude you can use 440 00:20:59,510 --> 00:20:57,360 what's working but beginning to focus on 441 00:21:02,710 --> 00:20:59,520 what's working in your life what you're 442 00:21:05,590 --> 00:21:02,720 grateful for just that alone starts to 443 00:21:08,470 --> 00:21:05,600 move us more towards self-love more 444 00:21:11,029 --> 00:21:08,480 toward thing you know being open to 445 00:21:14,149 --> 00:21:11,039 things working for us it makes us feel 446 00:21:16,549 --> 00:21:14,159 like you know oh the universe is on my 447 00:21:18,230 --> 00:21:16,559 side things can work out for me and oh i 448 00:21:19,990 --> 00:21:18,240 do actually have things working for me 449 00:21:21,590 --> 00:21:20,000 and the interesting thing is and i 450 00:21:23,909 --> 00:21:21,600 always say if you want to experiment 451 00:21:25,990 --> 00:21:23,919 with it do a science experiment and try 452 00:21:28,230 --> 00:21:26,000 doing gratitude practice for a month 453 00:21:30,549 --> 00:21:28,240 when we focus on what we're grateful for 454 00:21:33,830 --> 00:21:30,559 it creates more of that because what we 455 00:21:35,590 --> 00:21:33,840 focus on is what becomes our reality so 456 00:21:37,110 --> 00:21:35,600 that's the one i would say if that's the 457 00:21:39,430 --> 00:21:37,120 only if you're only willing to do one 458 00:21:41,510 --> 00:21:39,440 thing do that pair it with something 459 00:21:43,430 --> 00:21:41,520 you're already doing to make it easy to 460 00:21:45,750 --> 00:21:43,440 incorporate it into your life like i i 461 00:21:47,750 --> 00:21:45,760 do it every day when i walk my dog or if 462 00:21:49,110 --> 00:21:47,760 i'm ever feeling bad i just i'm like 463 00:21:50,870 --> 00:21:49,120 okay i'm gonna focus on what i'm 464 00:21:53,510 --> 00:21:50,880 grateful for and it helps shift me out 465 00:21:55,830 --> 00:21:53,520 of that negative space i was in and so 466 00:21:56,789 --> 00:21:55,840 that's that's one thing i would say um 467 00:21:58,870 --> 00:21:56,799 for sure 468 00:22:00,470 --> 00:21:58,880 that that brings me to 469 00:22:01,830 --> 00:22:00,480 you know it's kind of like you set up 470 00:22:03,590 --> 00:22:01,840 something that 471 00:22:05,990 --> 00:22:03,600 i was going to ask a question but it 472 00:22:08,470 --> 00:22:06,000 brings me to the fact that is happiness 473 00:22:10,789 --> 00:22:08,480 a choice because you know there's an old 474 00:22:13,110 --> 00:22:10,799 saying that there is no way to happiness 475 00:22:15,270 --> 00:22:13,120 happiness is the way 476 00:22:16,470 --> 00:22:15,280 if it is a choice 477 00:22:19,909 --> 00:22:16,480 how can 478 00:22:21,909 --> 00:22:19,919 one find the right tool to help really 479 00:22:23,669 --> 00:22:21,919 allow that choice to seep into their 480 00:22:26,310 --> 00:22:23,679 experience so they can choose that 481 00:22:28,710 --> 00:22:26,320 choice so is happiness a choice is it's 482 00:22:30,310 --> 00:22:28,720 as simple as a choice 483 00:22:32,630 --> 00:22:30,320 i'm just going to choose to be happy 484 00:22:34,789 --> 00:22:32,640 today i know it seems sort of silly 485 00:22:37,350 --> 00:22:34,799 doesn't it but i do believe that that 486 00:22:40,390 --> 00:22:37,360 happiness is very much a choice i think 487 00:22:43,669 --> 00:22:40,400 that when we understand that 488 00:22:46,070 --> 00:22:43,679 we have control over our internal 489 00:22:48,230 --> 00:22:46,080 circumstances then we can understand 490 00:22:50,470 --> 00:22:48,240 that it actually is a choice we don't 491 00:22:54,149 --> 00:22:50,480 have control over external i will agree 492 00:22:57,110 --> 00:22:54,159 with with anyone who says that but we do 493 00:22:59,590 --> 00:22:57,120 always have a choice over how we react 494 00:23:02,549 --> 00:22:59,600 to things so acceptance is our key to 495 00:23:04,630 --> 00:23:02,559 freedom so the more we are able to learn 496 00:23:07,590 --> 00:23:04,640 to tolerate 497 00:23:09,990 --> 00:23:07,600 the things that are out of 498 00:23:11,350 --> 00:23:10,000 you know our control or things 499 00:23:13,430 --> 00:23:11,360 that go 500 00:23:16,070 --> 00:23:13,440 in a way that we don't like the more 501 00:23:19,510 --> 00:23:16,080 we're willing to accept that and learn 502 00:23:21,270 --> 00:23:19,520 how to self soothe and and be okay we 503 00:23:22,470 --> 00:23:21,280 can learn to be happy regardless of 504 00:23:24,549 --> 00:23:22,480 what's happening 505 00:23:27,669 --> 00:23:24,559 externally 506 00:23:30,470 --> 00:23:27,679 so it's our beliefs our ideas what we 507 00:23:33,270 --> 00:23:30,480 think is real unreal possible impossible 508 00:23:35,350 --> 00:23:33,280 holy blasphemous it's our beliefs 509 00:23:37,270 --> 00:23:35,360 that are creating our reality 510 00:23:38,789 --> 00:23:37,280 yes i think that's true i think our 511 00:23:41,269 --> 00:23:38,799 beliefs create our reality so if we're 512 00:23:43,350 --> 00:23:41,279 focusing on i agree yeah it's a good one 513 00:23:45,430 --> 00:23:43,360 right 514 00:23:47,110 --> 00:23:45,440 if we're focusing on what isn't working 515 00:23:48,710 --> 00:23:47,120 or what's going wrong then we're gonna 516 00:23:52,390 --> 00:23:48,720 see a whole lot of that and it's gonna 517 00:23:54,310 --> 00:23:52,400 feel bad and we're gonna not feel good 518 00:23:55,990 --> 00:23:54,320 yeah but if we're focusing on what's 519 00:23:58,310 --> 00:23:56,000 working and and what 520 00:24:01,510 --> 00:23:58,320 feels good and what we want to create 521 00:24:06,149 --> 00:24:01,520 that that is still putting us in a space 522 00:24:08,549 --> 00:24:06,159 where um we feel good we feel happy 523 00:24:12,950 --> 00:24:08,559 and i think some of that probably no let 524 00:24:16,710 --> 00:24:14,710 forgiving yourself 525 00:24:19,029 --> 00:24:16,720 healing that inner child 526 00:24:21,350 --> 00:24:19,039 the part of us that we thought and at 527 00:24:22,710 --> 00:24:21,360 the time it's important that we see it i 528 00:24:24,070 --> 00:24:22,720 have seen it as 529 00:24:26,070 --> 00:24:24,080 i'm wounded 530 00:24:27,750 --> 00:24:26,080 there's a time for tenderness and care 531 00:24:29,510 --> 00:24:27,760 and support and nurturing and putting 532 00:24:31,190 --> 00:24:29,520 tincture on the and some ointment on the 533 00:24:35,669 --> 00:24:31,200 booboo 534 00:24:39,190 --> 00:24:38,070 for me the way i healed my inner child 535 00:24:41,750 --> 00:24:39,200 was 536 00:24:42,710 --> 00:24:41,760 i screamed even louder than i did as a 537 00:24:45,510 --> 00:24:42,720 kid 538 00:24:47,350 --> 00:24:45,520 as loud as i could was able to scream 539 00:24:47,350 --> 00:24:48,870 but through expression i don't give a 540 00:24:55,110 --> 00:24:50,310 i care 541 00:24:56,630 --> 00:24:55,120 everything that happens 542 00:24:58,149 --> 00:24:56,640 that's the way i express myself and 543 00:25:02,310 --> 00:24:58,159 saying i just don't give a i don't 544 00:25:05,430 --> 00:25:02,320 care about frivolous nonsensical things 545 00:25:07,909 --> 00:25:05,440 and everybody has their healing way um 546 00:25:10,310 --> 00:25:07,919 i had many we all have experiences but 547 00:25:12,070 --> 00:25:10,320 for mine uh lost a sister we all lose 548 00:25:13,190 --> 00:25:12,080 loved ones being in a relationship or 549 00:25:15,750 --> 00:25:13,200 earthly 550 00:25:17,190 --> 00:25:15,760 but my way was being even more 551 00:25:18,950 --> 00:25:17,200 rambunctious 552 00:25:21,590 --> 00:25:18,960 to expressing to 553 00:25:23,590 --> 00:25:21,600 realize that it is okay that i play as 554 00:25:25,269 --> 00:25:23,600 hard as i want to play and then when i 555 00:25:27,110 --> 00:25:25,279 reach that level finally 556 00:25:29,669 --> 00:25:27,120 it broke 557 00:25:31,990 --> 00:25:29,679 and i started my descent back into the 558 00:25:34,070 --> 00:25:32,000 seat instead of being so active and 559 00:25:36,070 --> 00:25:34,080 trying to get and acquire something how 560 00:25:40,070 --> 00:25:36,080 was that for you dear 561 00:25:41,669 --> 00:25:40,080 um in terms of my healing journey trauma 562 00:25:42,470 --> 00:25:41,679 being a child 563 00:25:45,430 --> 00:25:42,480 yeah 564 00:25:47,110 --> 00:25:45,440 very similar you know i i think that it 565 00:25:48,549 --> 00:25:47,120 really was 566 00:25:52,230 --> 00:25:48,559 about 567 00:25:55,990 --> 00:25:52,240 recognizing that that i had a wounded 568 00:25:59,990 --> 00:25:56,000 inner child and that i needed to be able 569 00:26:02,950 --> 00:26:00,000 to come and show up for myself as my my 570 00:26:05,190 --> 00:26:02,960 parent as my best friend and no matter 571 00:26:08,230 --> 00:26:05,200 what i'm feeling right it's 572 00:26:09,909 --> 00:26:08,240 understanding that it's okay but the 573 00:26:12,390 --> 00:26:09,919 tricky thing is is when we're taught 574 00:26:14,870 --> 00:26:12,400 that our our needs or our feelings are 575 00:26:17,750 --> 00:26:14,880 unacceptable or people don't have you 576 00:26:19,510 --> 00:26:17,760 know the time for them we we start doing 577 00:26:21,830 --> 00:26:19,520 that to ourselves as well so it's like 578 00:26:23,669 --> 00:26:21,840 when those wounded parts of us show up 579 00:26:25,510 --> 00:26:23,679 we feel ashamed of them or we feel like 580 00:26:27,350 --> 00:26:25,520 we we don't like it when they show up 581 00:26:30,549 --> 00:26:27,360 and so we want to put them away but the 582 00:26:32,470 --> 00:26:30,559 key is is to be able to accept all parts 583 00:26:36,310 --> 00:26:32,480 of us the parts of us that show up that 584 00:26:39,269 --> 00:26:36,320 are needy or you know um 585 00:26:41,510 --> 00:26:39,279 just bring us shame those parts deserve 586 00:26:44,149 --> 00:26:41,520 our love and attention just as much as 587 00:26:45,350 --> 00:26:44,159 the parts of us that we feel good about 588 00:26:47,590 --> 00:26:45,360 showing to the world the parts that 589 00:26:49,909 --> 00:26:47,600 we're proud of but it's like once we can 590 00:26:53,510 --> 00:26:49,919 see that those wounded parts that show 591 00:26:55,430 --> 00:26:53,520 up deserve um acceptance and you know 592 00:26:57,110 --> 00:26:55,440 then we can begin to attend to them and 593 00:26:58,630 --> 00:26:57,120 not feel bad when we need to advocate 594 00:27:00,630 --> 00:26:58,640 for ourselves with another person like 595 00:27:02,310 --> 00:27:00,640 in a relationship like with a partner or 596 00:27:04,070 --> 00:27:02,320 something it's like you know we we're 597 00:27:06,310 --> 00:27:04,080 like no it's okay that this is a need of 598 00:27:08,950 --> 00:27:06,320 mine that i had this experience as a 599 00:27:11,990 --> 00:27:08,960 child or growing up and it's made 600 00:27:14,310 --> 00:27:12,000 this this a trigger for me and so i i 601 00:27:16,149 --> 00:27:14,320 need to take care of myself in this way 602 00:27:20,230 --> 00:27:16,159 and once we're able to do that it helps 603 00:27:21,990 --> 00:27:20,240 us heal how good are you with triggers 604 00:27:24,950 --> 00:27:22,000 how good are you with triggers i mean 605 00:27:27,190 --> 00:27:24,960 i'm really good at it years ago 606 00:27:28,870 --> 00:27:27,200 i was a quick draw 607 00:27:30,310 --> 00:27:28,880 now it's like of course it something may 608 00:27:32,070 --> 00:27:30,320 catch you off guard it's like whoa what 609 00:27:33,750 --> 00:27:32,080 was that 610 00:27:38,149 --> 00:27:33,760 i don't necessarily like it and i don't 611 00:27:41,269 --> 00:27:39,669 i'm good 612 00:27:43,590 --> 00:27:41,279 exactly how are you with triggers same 613 00:27:44,950 --> 00:27:43,600 way that's exactly i mean it's painful 614 00:27:46,389 --> 00:27:44,960 isn't it i mean whenever of course we 615 00:27:48,549 --> 00:27:46,399 don't like it when we get triggered 616 00:27:51,029 --> 00:27:48,559 because it's it's push something's 617 00:27:52,549 --> 00:27:51,039 pushing on something that still needs a 618 00:27:54,950 --> 00:27:52,559 little bit of healing and it's always 619 00:27:56,950 --> 00:27:54,960 painful but it's like once we can 620 00:27:59,750 --> 00:27:56,960 recognize what's happening then like you 621 00:28:02,310 --> 00:27:59,760 said we can sit with it breathe feel the 622 00:28:04,149 --> 00:28:02,320 pain and understand what caused it and 623 00:28:06,870 --> 00:28:04,159 what we need and then we don't have to 624 00:28:09,430 --> 00:28:06,880 put it on other people you know 625 00:28:11,269 --> 00:28:09,440 but that initial sting that initial 626 00:28:13,430 --> 00:28:11,279 punch in the sternum 627 00:28:15,430 --> 00:28:13,440 we do put that's the point we put it on 628 00:28:16,389 --> 00:28:15,440 the other person immediately as soon as 629 00:28:18,310 --> 00:28:16,399 it happens 630 00:28:20,630 --> 00:28:18,320 that's why it's called triggered you 631 00:28:22,149 --> 00:28:20,640 triggered me because without the other 632 00:28:24,310 --> 00:28:22,159 you there would be no trigger you'd be 633 00:28:26,070 --> 00:28:24,320 sitting by yourself on the park bench 634 00:28:28,310 --> 00:28:26,080 feeding pigeons 635 00:28:31,110 --> 00:28:28,320 exactly so it's about it's about 636 00:28:32,710 --> 00:28:31,120 accepting oneself just falling into 637 00:28:35,430 --> 00:28:32,720 acceptance 638 00:28:37,430 --> 00:28:35,440 forgiving and actually taking it beyond 639 00:28:40,070 --> 00:28:37,440 get beyond the level that i forgive my 640 00:28:41,350 --> 00:28:40,080 wounded child that's over 641 00:28:44,070 --> 00:28:41,360 i don't even 642 00:28:46,310 --> 00:28:44,080 dwell that there was a forgiving process 643 00:28:47,830 --> 00:28:46,320 that's sort of like a goal 644 00:28:50,630 --> 00:28:47,840 it's like when we get to a future 645 00:28:53,029 --> 00:28:50,640 vantage point that is so powerful 646 00:28:55,269 --> 00:28:53,039 that we might remember the past but the 647 00:28:58,630 --> 00:28:55,279 tone and the meaning of it just simply 648 00:28:59,990 --> 00:28:58,640 completely changes into something else 649 00:29:01,510 --> 00:29:00,000 and i think it's about accepting 650 00:29:04,149 --> 00:29:01,520 yourself like you said on this bullet 651 00:29:05,590 --> 00:29:04,159 list which i l and everything you had on 652 00:29:06,710 --> 00:29:05,600 this bullet list these topics were 653 00:29:09,190 --> 00:29:06,720 touching on 654 00:29:10,549 --> 00:29:09,200 they're so chronologically in order in 655 00:29:12,549 --> 00:29:10,559 other words it's not just a question and 656 00:29:15,510 --> 00:29:12,559 a question they're actually creating 657 00:29:17,430 --> 00:29:15,520 this this trickle this trail this 658 00:29:19,350 --> 00:29:17,440 um you did your homework kind of thing 659 00:29:21,190 --> 00:29:19,360 at least i'm recognizing that 660 00:29:22,789 --> 00:29:21,200 i didn't even never notice but i didn't 661 00:29:24,230 --> 00:29:22,799 yeah i mean everything is on you know 662 00:29:26,230 --> 00:29:24,240 i'm using your 663 00:29:28,710 --> 00:29:26,240 dialogue here your suggestions to weave 664 00:29:31,269 --> 00:29:28,720 things as a river and 665 00:29:33,269 --> 00:29:31,279 you definitely were in that boat so tell 666 00:29:35,269 --> 00:29:33,279 me about acceptance how do we go about 667 00:29:36,389 --> 00:29:35,279 accepting ourselves and then in turn 668 00:29:37,350 --> 00:29:36,399 others 669 00:29:40,630 --> 00:29:37,360 yeah 670 00:29:42,070 --> 00:29:40,640 acceptance is 671 00:29:43,669 --> 00:29:42,080 you know there's a couple things i mean 672 00:29:47,190 --> 00:29:43,679 there's when we're talking about 673 00:29:48,230 --> 00:29:47,200 accepting ourself i think it is first 674 00:29:50,950 --> 00:29:48,240 about 675 00:29:54,230 --> 00:29:50,960 developing that relationship with 676 00:29:56,630 --> 00:29:54,240 ourself it's about um beginning to come 677 00:29:59,269 --> 00:29:56,640 to know our true self beginning to 678 00:30:01,990 --> 00:29:59,279 understand that we are not our 679 00:30:04,310 --> 00:30:02,000 conditioning and how we i think we can 680 00:30:06,549 --> 00:30:04,320 do that best as beginning to 681 00:30:08,549 --> 00:30:06,559 meditate spend time with our true self 682 00:30:11,990 --> 00:30:08,559 spend time getting to know 683 00:30:14,070 --> 00:30:12,000 our our soul aside from our mind spend 684 00:30:16,389 --> 00:30:14,080 time in your body so that you can 685 00:30:18,950 --> 00:30:16,399 understand the difference between your 686 00:30:21,269 --> 00:30:18,960 your true self and and your conditioning 687 00:30:23,830 --> 00:30:21,279 and then thinking about acceptance one 688 00:30:26,710 --> 00:30:23,840 of my favorite things to say is 689 00:30:29,990 --> 00:30:26,720 what would it be like to be me 690 00:30:32,549 --> 00:30:30,000 with without judgment so you can just be 691 00:30:34,149 --> 00:30:32,559 out here being a human making you know 692 00:30:37,269 --> 00:30:34,159 choices sometimes are good sometimes 693 00:30:39,590 --> 00:30:37,279 they're bad uh and it without it being 694 00:30:42,549 --> 00:30:39,600 right or wrong or good or bad that is 695 00:30:45,029 --> 00:30:42,559 real true acceptance that's real love 696 00:30:47,269 --> 00:30:45,039 and once we can do that for ourself it's 697 00:30:49,190 --> 00:30:47,279 like we're just allowed to live and the 698 00:30:51,909 --> 00:30:49,200 only person who ever makes it 699 00:30:54,310 --> 00:30:51,919 you know okay or not okay or good is our 700 00:30:56,230 --> 00:30:54,320 own mind so once we we can get around 701 00:30:58,630 --> 00:30:56,240 that then we can do that for others and 702 00:31:00,710 --> 00:30:58,640 then when we're able to accept and and 703 00:31:03,190 --> 00:31:00,720 do that for others it's just so i mean 704 00:31:04,549 --> 00:31:03,200 life is so wonderful 705 00:31:07,509 --> 00:31:04,559 there's no friction there's no 706 00:31:09,750 --> 00:31:07,519 resistance it gets really easy we stop 707 00:31:11,750 --> 00:31:09,760 paddling against the current 708 00:31:13,750 --> 00:31:11,760 and we don't even have to turn the raft 709 00:31:15,350 --> 00:31:13,760 the current simply turns us and down 710 00:31:18,230 --> 00:31:15,360 with the river we go 711 00:31:20,950 --> 00:31:18,240 but when we try to face the current like 712 00:31:22,630 --> 00:31:20,960 stones our lives become rapids and we're 713 00:31:26,310 --> 00:31:22,640 trying to get to the top of the river 714 00:31:27,110 --> 00:31:26,320 like salmon only to be eaten by bear 715 00:31:28,950 --> 00:31:27,120 right 716 00:31:29,830 --> 00:31:28,960 there's nothing we want upstream nothing 717 00:31:31,590 --> 00:31:29,840 at all 718 00:31:33,909 --> 00:31:31,600 and but and this leads me into your next 719 00:31:34,950 --> 00:31:33,919 segue i'm serious you might be could use 720 00:31:36,789 --> 00:31:34,960 these 721 00:31:39,590 --> 00:31:36,799 questions as a 722 00:31:41,669 --> 00:31:39,600 whatever for your promo it's fantastic 723 00:31:43,830 --> 00:31:41,679 something i have always done when 724 00:31:45,669 --> 00:31:43,840 something bothers me that's in the form 725 00:31:47,590 --> 00:31:45,679 of a fear 726 00:31:49,669 --> 00:31:47,600 an act of fear something that's a thorn 727 00:31:51,590 --> 00:31:49,679 in my mind in my side 728 00:31:53,590 --> 00:31:51,600 it's it's just aggravating 729 00:31:54,710 --> 00:31:53,600 i'm gonna go do it 730 00:31:57,190 --> 00:31:54,720 as a kid 731 00:31:58,870 --> 00:31:57,200 10 years old public swimming pool 732 00:32:00,470 --> 00:31:58,880 all my friends are diving off the high 733 00:32:02,470 --> 00:32:00,480 diving board and i'm holding on to the 734 00:32:03,509 --> 00:32:02,480 side scared to death and i'm thinking to 735 00:32:05,990 --> 00:32:03,519 myself 736 00:32:07,750 --> 00:32:06,000 how can they be possibly having such a 737 00:32:10,310 --> 00:32:07,760 blast with something that 738 00:32:13,750 --> 00:32:10,320 i am so freaked out about 739 00:32:15,669 --> 00:32:13,760 so finally i said screw that 740 00:32:17,350 --> 00:32:15,679 on any particular whatever the chosen 741 00:32:19,750 --> 00:32:17,360 day was 742 00:32:22,070 --> 00:32:19,760 got up the ladder and now there's a line 743 00:32:24,549 --> 00:32:22,080 of kids behind me ready to go so i 744 00:32:26,389 --> 00:32:24,559 cannot turn around 745 00:32:28,310 --> 00:32:26,399 so my heart's palpitating 746 00:32:29,830 --> 00:32:28,320 right so i run to the edge of the board 747 00:32:32,710 --> 00:32:29,840 and i'm freaking i stop and they're 748 00:32:35,029 --> 00:32:32,720 screaming at me come on cave man go 749 00:32:37,990 --> 00:32:35,039 i gotta go 750 00:32:39,590 --> 00:32:38,000 and when i jumped off the diving board 751 00:32:42,230 --> 00:32:39,600 things slowed down and when i hit the 752 00:32:44,710 --> 00:32:42,240 water i realized 753 00:32:46,389 --> 00:32:44,720 i didn't die 754 00:32:49,029 --> 00:32:46,399 it didn't hurt 755 00:32:50,389 --> 00:32:49,039 and the whole illusion just dissipated 756 00:32:51,909 --> 00:32:50,399 and so now i'm pushing people out the 757 00:32:55,190 --> 00:32:51,919 way so i can get ahead of them and cut 758 00:32:58,389 --> 00:32:55,200 in line just to go do it so 759 00:33:00,070 --> 00:32:58,399 face your fear for your soul i felt that 760 00:33:02,310 --> 00:33:00,080 and from that day 761 00:33:05,029 --> 00:33:02,320 all those years ago that's sort of been 762 00:33:07,190 --> 00:33:05,039 a walk for me if something bothers me 763 00:33:09,110 --> 00:33:07,200 i'm going to go do it 764 00:33:11,590 --> 00:33:09,120 and prove to myself it's just not what 765 00:33:13,350 --> 00:33:11,600 it seems how do we 766 00:33:16,310 --> 00:33:13,360 how do you suggest 767 00:33:18,070 --> 00:33:16,320 is there are there words to suggest to 768 00:33:19,909 --> 00:33:18,080 others how 769 00:33:21,269 --> 00:33:19,919 to face their fear let's just go do it 770 00:33:22,950 --> 00:33:21,279 well yeah but that's easy for you to say 771 00:33:24,389 --> 00:33:22,960 right 772 00:33:25,190 --> 00:33:24,399 how do we how do you suggest we do that 773 00:33:27,110 --> 00:33:25,200 dear 774 00:33:29,430 --> 00:33:27,120 yeah well one of the things i like to 775 00:33:31,909 --> 00:33:29,440 think is like we we really truly know 776 00:33:34,789 --> 00:33:31,919 the difference between the different 777 00:33:35,750 --> 00:33:34,799 kinds of fears right we know if we truly 778 00:33:39,590 --> 00:33:35,760 are 779 00:33:42,549 --> 00:33:39,600 in danger or if if it's maybe more that 780 00:33:45,110 --> 00:33:42,559 we're pushing up right on the edge of 781 00:33:45,990 --> 00:33:45,120 growth and so when we know that it's 782 00:33:48,310 --> 00:33:46,000 about 783 00:33:49,990 --> 00:33:48,320 you know going outside our comfort zone 784 00:33:52,549 --> 00:33:50,000 then what i think is that we can start 785 00:33:54,230 --> 00:33:52,559 to think of fear as our friend we can 786 00:33:56,630 --> 00:33:54,240 start to get a little bit excited when 787 00:33:58,870 --> 00:33:56,640 we when we feel feel fearful because we 788 00:34:00,470 --> 00:33:58,880 know it means we're leveling up it means 789 00:34:02,310 --> 00:34:00,480 we're we're growing we're right on our 790 00:34:04,389 --> 00:34:02,320 comfort zone and the thing to think 791 00:34:06,310 --> 00:34:04,399 about is that we're in good company when 792 00:34:07,830 --> 00:34:06,320 we're in fear because nobody does 793 00:34:10,069 --> 00:34:07,840 anything 794 00:34:12,470 --> 00:34:10,079 fantastic or wonderful in this world 795 00:34:14,710 --> 00:34:12,480 without fear nobody and so you can know 796 00:34:16,710 --> 00:34:14,720 that fear's normal it's something that 797 00:34:18,710 --> 00:34:16,720 you can teach yourself to 798 00:34:21,669 --> 00:34:18,720 to be okay you know to be our best 799 00:34:23,510 --> 00:34:21,679 selves to to get you know to become our 800 00:34:27,030 --> 00:34:23,520 highest best selves we do have to get 801 00:34:27,990 --> 00:34:27,040 comfortable being uncomfortable and and 802 00:34:29,990 --> 00:34:28,000 it's like 803 00:34:32,470 --> 00:34:30,000 we can even though we have fear we can 804 00:34:34,230 --> 00:34:32,480 remind we can tell ourselves it's normal 805 00:34:36,149 --> 00:34:34,240 you know everyone feels this way when 806 00:34:38,710 --> 00:34:36,159 when they're up on their comfort zone 807 00:34:41,270 --> 00:34:38,720 and we can take small steps in spite of 808 00:34:43,430 --> 00:34:41,280 our fear we can do it you know 809 00:34:45,430 --> 00:34:43,440 the biggest thing is finding what's the 810 00:34:46,550 --> 00:34:45,440 smallest step i can take in this 811 00:34:48,470 --> 00:34:46,560 direction 812 00:34:53,109 --> 00:34:48,480 and and still make a movement you know 813 00:34:57,270 --> 00:34:54,869 yeah 814 00:34:58,870 --> 00:34:57,280 when i love what you said just love it 815 00:35:00,710 --> 00:34:58,880 when we 816 00:35:02,390 --> 00:35:00,720 you're gonna have there's there's no way 817 00:35:04,470 --> 00:35:02,400 you're going to have to become 818 00:35:06,150 --> 00:35:04,480 uncomfortable you can choose that now 819 00:35:07,990 --> 00:35:06,160 and be ahead of the game 820 00:35:10,069 --> 00:35:08,000 or it's going to choose you and you will 821 00:35:11,670 --> 00:35:10,079 be one step behind as it leads you 822 00:35:15,270 --> 00:35:11,680 versus you leading it 823 00:35:17,430 --> 00:35:15,280 yeah you have to get uncomfortable yeah 824 00:35:19,910 --> 00:35:17,440 but what happens as stephanie said i 825 00:35:21,270 --> 00:35:19,920 would like to echo is that 826 00:35:23,750 --> 00:35:21,280 when you move into the fear it's going 827 00:35:25,030 --> 00:35:23,760 to feel wonky oh this feels so sticky 828 00:35:26,870 --> 00:35:25,040 and icky 829 00:35:27,670 --> 00:35:26,880 and then you realize about 30 seconds 830 00:35:29,829 --> 00:35:27,680 later 831 00:35:31,589 --> 00:35:29,839 wait a 832 00:35:32,790 --> 00:35:31,599 this is not so bad this is what i 833 00:35:34,310 --> 00:35:32,800 thought it was 834 00:35:36,310 --> 00:35:34,320 not only are you really getting 835 00:35:38,390 --> 00:35:36,320 comfortable and being uncomfortable 836 00:35:41,670 --> 00:35:38,400 those two images shatter and now you're 837 00:35:43,750 --> 00:35:41,680 closer to the real aspect of your soul 838 00:35:46,710 --> 00:35:43,760 because you're no longer bound by the 839 00:35:49,190 --> 00:35:46,720 duality of this or of that 840 00:35:51,430 --> 00:35:49,200 yeah this is the work that stephanie has 841 00:35:53,030 --> 00:35:51,440 been describing and many teachers today 842 00:35:54,790 --> 00:35:53,040 are saying they're not just telling you 843 00:35:56,950 --> 00:35:54,800 that because it's something they read 844 00:35:59,990 --> 00:35:56,960 somewhere along this teacher lineage 845 00:36:01,910 --> 00:36:00,000 line people had to experience these 846 00:36:04,230 --> 00:36:01,920 levels of reality 847 00:36:05,670 --> 00:36:04,240 and myself many of you and people that i 848 00:36:08,550 --> 00:36:05,680 bring into this forum 849 00:36:10,630 --> 00:36:08,560 are doing just that and when we begin to 850 00:36:13,349 --> 00:36:10,640 connect 851 00:36:14,550 --> 00:36:13,359 the hundred monkeys we all got a monkey 852 00:36:17,109 --> 00:36:14,560 in the head 853 00:36:20,390 --> 00:36:17,119 so when the collective monkey gets the 854 00:36:25,109 --> 00:36:22,790 so it's about self-forgiveness i talk 855 00:36:27,589 --> 00:36:25,119 about often stephanie that 856 00:36:30,550 --> 00:36:27,599 these monks in the himalayas 857 00:36:32,950 --> 00:36:30,560 ascetics sikhs yogis 858 00:36:34,310 --> 00:36:32,960 they go into caves 859 00:36:36,230 --> 00:36:34,320 to forgive 860 00:36:38,069 --> 00:36:36,240 the people who wronged them 861 00:36:39,510 --> 00:36:38,079 they go into caves they stay in there to 862 00:36:41,030 --> 00:36:39,520 forgive 863 00:36:42,950 --> 00:36:41,040 who they've wronged 864 00:36:44,310 --> 00:36:42,960 themselves about they forgive others 865 00:36:46,630 --> 00:36:44,320 who've wronged others and the others 866 00:36:49,430 --> 00:36:46,640 who've wronged all the others 867 00:36:51,430 --> 00:36:49,440 in in hawaii there's a practice called 868 00:36:54,870 --> 00:36:51,440 ho'oponopono 869 00:36:56,310 --> 00:36:54,880 which is the art practice of free not 870 00:36:59,270 --> 00:36:56,320 only forgiving yourself and those who've 871 00:37:00,870 --> 00:36:59,280 wronged you and how you've done them 872 00:37:01,910 --> 00:37:00,880 it's forgiving 873 00:37:03,589 --> 00:37:01,920 everything 874 00:37:05,670 --> 00:37:03,599 is this the self-forgiveness you were 875 00:37:08,310 --> 00:37:05,680 talking about in your notes 876 00:37:10,630 --> 00:37:08,320 well it's funny because um ho pono apono 877 00:37:12,950 --> 00:37:10,640 is something that i included in my book 878 00:37:16,870 --> 00:37:12,960 um 879 00:37:20,069 --> 00:37:16,880 the the thing 880 00:37:22,310 --> 00:37:20,079 self-forgiveness forgiveness of anybody 881 00:37:25,430 --> 00:37:22,320 is about self-love because if you think 882 00:37:26,790 --> 00:37:25,440 about it carrying around resentment or 883 00:37:29,589 --> 00:37:26,800 pains from 884 00:37:31,750 --> 00:37:29,599 um things that have been done to you 885 00:37:34,950 --> 00:37:31,760 isn't impacting anybody else it's 886 00:37:38,150 --> 00:37:34,960 impacting you so you freeing yourself 887 00:37:40,310 --> 00:37:38,160 from from any things you know that that 888 00:37:42,390 --> 00:37:40,320 have happened to you and 889 00:37:45,589 --> 00:37:42,400 being able to forgive somebody or 890 00:37:47,190 --> 00:37:45,599 yourself is clearing yourself out it's 891 00:37:48,710 --> 00:37:47,200 clearing yourself out so that you don't 892 00:37:52,390 --> 00:37:48,720 have that suffering and so that you can 893 00:37:54,950 --> 00:37:52,400 have higher vibration you know energy in 894 00:37:56,790 --> 00:37:54,960 your in your body but there there are a 895 00:38:00,069 --> 00:37:56,800 couple things in terms of forgiveness 896 00:38:02,310 --> 00:38:00,079 that i think um is really helpful i mean 897 00:38:05,430 --> 00:38:02,320 there are two important steps you know 898 00:38:07,510 --> 00:38:05,440 in order to be able to forgive someone 899 00:38:12,550 --> 00:38:07,520 you have to know 900 00:38:15,510 --> 00:38:12,560 are lovable and worthy and accept 901 00:38:19,109 --> 00:38:15,520 yourself as you are once you're able to 902 00:38:21,109 --> 00:38:19,119 do this then it allows you to not take 903 00:38:23,670 --> 00:38:21,119 other people's behavior personally it 904 00:38:26,550 --> 00:38:23,680 allows you to understand that somebody's 905 00:38:28,870 --> 00:38:26,560 behavior doesn't get to mean anything 906 00:38:30,790 --> 00:38:28,880 about you but it's hard for us to 907 00:38:32,950 --> 00:38:30,800 forgive when we are attached to 908 00:38:35,430 --> 00:38:32,960 someone's behavior when we feel like 909 00:38:37,430 --> 00:38:35,440 well if this person shows up for me in 910 00:38:39,349 --> 00:38:37,440 this way it means they love me or if 911 00:38:41,670 --> 00:38:39,359 they do this to me it means i'm not 912 00:38:44,390 --> 00:38:41,680 lovable or they don't love me and so 913 00:38:46,950 --> 00:38:44,400 that's why that piece of learning self 914 00:38:48,550 --> 00:38:46,960 love and acceptance is important so that 915 00:38:51,670 --> 00:38:48,560 we can detach from other people's 916 00:38:54,470 --> 00:38:51,680 behavior then it's easier for us to 917 00:38:56,710 --> 00:38:54,480 be able to understand you know and the 918 00:38:58,790 --> 00:38:56,720 the other thing is that is 919 00:39:01,349 --> 00:38:58,800 once we have that peace in terms of 920 00:39:03,349 --> 00:39:01,359 knowing our own worth then we can 921 00:39:05,829 --> 00:39:03,359 utilize a little bit of empathy in terms 922 00:39:07,990 --> 00:39:05,839 of like well why do they show up that 923 00:39:10,069 --> 00:39:08,000 way why do they have that behavior and 924 00:39:11,990 --> 00:39:10,079 we can see that oh okay well they had 925 00:39:13,990 --> 00:39:12,000 this sort of childhood that had these 926 00:39:16,150 --> 00:39:14,000 experiences this is why they show up 927 00:39:18,310 --> 00:39:16,160 that way and their their behaviors based 928 00:39:20,069 --> 00:39:18,320 on their conditioning has nothing to do 929 00:39:22,230 --> 00:39:20,079 with me and doesn't get to mean anything 930 00:39:27,030 --> 00:39:22,240 about me even though of course it often 931 00:39:31,109 --> 00:39:28,550 yeah 932 00:39:33,270 --> 00:39:31,119 you and i are so much alike even as i'm 933 00:39:34,870 --> 00:39:33,280 going through this 934 00:39:36,630 --> 00:39:34,880 word document and 935 00:39:38,870 --> 00:39:36,640 feeling the interview out so i can play 936 00:39:40,630 --> 00:39:38,880 good host right 937 00:39:42,790 --> 00:39:40,640 i'm just watching this flow between you 938 00:39:44,150 --> 00:39:42,800 and i's dialogue how you stepping out i 939 00:39:46,390 --> 00:39:44,160 can hear your volume with your voice 940 00:39:48,069 --> 00:39:46,400 starting to decay and you know we got 941 00:39:49,750 --> 00:39:48,079 this shake hands kind of sort of like a 942 00:39:52,069 --> 00:39:49,760 dance going on 943 00:39:55,030 --> 00:39:52,079 but something another one another bullet 944 00:39:57,430 --> 00:39:55,040 point i come to is open your heart 945 00:39:59,109 --> 00:39:57,440 live your life it's like grab your 946 00:40:02,470 --> 00:39:59,119 metaphorical 947 00:40:06,550 --> 00:40:02,480 spiritual hands and peel this thing open 948 00:40:08,230 --> 00:40:06,560 and the word i use is vulnerability 949 00:40:11,430 --> 00:40:08,240 you know passion you need the fire you 950 00:40:13,190 --> 00:40:11,440 need the god the the creative source and 951 00:40:15,190 --> 00:40:13,200 we need clarity so that when the light 952 00:40:17,270 --> 00:40:15,200 moves there's nothing in the way nothing 953 00:40:20,069 --> 00:40:17,280 gets encumbered and it projects 954 00:40:21,270 --> 00:40:20,079 projection erroneous reality 955 00:40:23,030 --> 00:40:21,280 and then you take action with the 956 00:40:25,430 --> 00:40:23,040 backbone but 957 00:40:27,430 --> 00:40:25,440 so we have passion sincerity i mean i'm 958 00:40:31,670 --> 00:40:27,440 serious about this thing that i'm 959 00:40:37,510 --> 00:40:35,829 ironically when we drop we lift 960 00:40:39,270 --> 00:40:37,520 yeah creates a vibration which opens the 961 00:40:41,030 --> 00:40:39,280 door to vulnerability and that's this is 962 00:40:41,750 --> 00:40:41,040 sort of what the passion of the christ 963 00:40:43,910 --> 00:40:41,760 is 964 00:40:45,510 --> 00:40:43,920 when he opened up that core and let that 965 00:40:50,069 --> 00:40:45,520 light out 966 00:40:51,990 --> 00:40:50,079 not only did he become a lie for eternal 967 00:40:53,270 --> 00:40:52,000 he did that for everybody else that was 968 00:40:56,790 --> 00:40:53,280 to follow 969 00:40:59,349 --> 00:40:56,800 so vulnerability when we open our heart 970 00:41:01,349 --> 00:40:59,359 is when truly we are able to step 971 00:41:03,670 --> 00:41:01,359 forward in all of our glory yeah 972 00:41:06,790 --> 00:41:03,680 yeah yeah tell me about that tell me 973 00:41:10,550 --> 00:41:06,800 about it yeah well you know um what 974 00:41:11,349 --> 00:41:10,560 you're saying is is true is that when we 975 00:41:15,430 --> 00:41:11,359 are 976 00:41:17,030 --> 00:41:15,440 open and vulnerable yes it's scary and a 977 00:41:20,550 --> 00:41:17,040 little bit dangerous because we can get 978 00:41:23,030 --> 00:41:20,560 hurt but also we get to experience 979 00:41:26,870 --> 00:41:23,040 all the great things in life we get to 980 00:41:29,510 --> 00:41:26,880 experience love and and passion and we 981 00:41:32,790 --> 00:41:29,520 get to allow ourselves to we get to 982 00:41:35,750 --> 00:41:32,800 validate our experiences if we are 983 00:41:38,069 --> 00:41:35,760 closing ourself off um because we've 984 00:41:40,470 --> 00:41:38,079 been hurt or we've had you know abuse 985 00:41:42,870 --> 00:41:40,480 any of those things to keep ourselves 986 00:41:45,829 --> 00:41:42,880 safe i mean it makes sense it's smart to 987 00:41:47,750 --> 00:41:45,839 to do that but also what happens is we 988 00:41:49,589 --> 00:41:47,760 we shut ourselves off from everything 989 00:41:51,589 --> 00:41:49,599 there's no way to 990 00:41:53,750 --> 00:41:51,599 shut yourself off from some things and 991 00:41:56,150 --> 00:41:53,760 be open to other others really it's like 992 00:41:59,270 --> 00:41:56,160 if you're closed you're missing out on 993 00:42:01,750 --> 00:41:59,280 on the important stuff and that's really 994 00:42:04,230 --> 00:42:01,760 you know how we heal that's how we you 995 00:42:07,109 --> 00:42:04,240 know live our most 996 00:42:08,710 --> 00:42:07,119 deepest passionate lives is by being 997 00:42:10,630 --> 00:42:08,720 open 998 00:42:12,870 --> 00:42:10,640 learning to feel our feelings whether 999 00:42:14,550 --> 00:42:12,880 they're negative or positive like you 1000 00:42:15,750 --> 00:42:14,560 and i were talking about a few moments 1001 00:42:19,829 --> 00:42:15,760 ago 1002 00:42:21,990 --> 00:42:19,839 you know teaching ourself that we can be 1003 00:42:25,270 --> 00:42:22,000 comfortable being uncomfortable that's 1004 00:42:27,109 --> 00:42:25,280 the key it's like we can any emotion we 1005 00:42:29,670 --> 00:42:27,119 experience they're all energy whether 1006 00:42:31,510 --> 00:42:29,680 it's positive or negative and they're 1007 00:42:33,589 --> 00:42:31,520 all the same but if we're not feeling 1008 00:42:36,470 --> 00:42:33,599 them they get trapped in our body and 1009 00:42:37,510 --> 00:42:36,480 that keeps us from living our our best 1010 00:42:40,470 --> 00:42:37,520 life 1011 00:42:41,750 --> 00:42:40,480 you're exactly right and that is it that 1012 00:42:43,990 --> 00:42:41,760 is the key 1013 00:42:46,230 --> 00:42:44,000 be okay with not being okay and 1014 00:42:48,790 --> 00:42:46,240 eventually you find yourself 1015 00:42:51,109 --> 00:42:48,800 more okay than you were before 1016 00:42:52,630 --> 00:42:51,119 and so this keeps turning within itself 1017 00:42:53,990 --> 00:42:52,640 and you keep relaxing and you keep 1018 00:42:56,470 --> 00:42:54,000 expanding 1019 00:42:58,630 --> 00:42:56,480 that's it there is no spiritual work to 1020 00:43:01,270 --> 00:42:58,640 do there really isn't it's all 1021 00:43:04,069 --> 00:43:01,280 i get it it's a methodology and you 1022 00:43:06,630 --> 00:43:04,079 follow it and it has amazing perks as if 1023 00:43:08,150 --> 00:43:06,640 you just learned the super art of not 1024 00:43:09,190 --> 00:43:08,160 giving a 1025 00:43:12,069 --> 00:43:09,200 caring 1026 00:43:13,430 --> 00:43:12,079 but not just falling into the space of i 1027 00:43:14,630 --> 00:43:13,440 don't have to like what's happening in 1028 00:43:18,069 --> 00:43:14,640 the world i don't have to like what 1029 00:43:20,309 --> 00:43:18,079 so-and-so did to someone who did to me 1030 00:43:22,550 --> 00:43:20,319 but eventually this inner dialogue just 1031 00:43:24,069 --> 00:43:22,560 simply quietens 1032 00:43:26,390 --> 00:43:24,079 no matter how spiritually enlightened 1033 00:43:27,829 --> 00:43:26,400 you are until you get to the absolution 1034 00:43:29,589 --> 00:43:27,839 of it all 1035 00:43:31,589 --> 00:43:29,599 you will always find that you don't have 1036 00:43:34,230 --> 00:43:31,599 to like something 1037 00:43:36,150 --> 00:43:34,240 but and you're not responding to it 1038 00:43:38,390 --> 00:43:36,160 you have peace 1039 00:43:39,510 --> 00:43:38,400 acceptance allow i accept this thing i 1040 00:43:41,829 --> 00:43:39,520 don't have to like it it's god's 1041 00:43:45,589 --> 00:43:41,839 creation it ain't mine for me to change 1042 00:43:47,589 --> 00:43:45,599 that's the humility yeah and so 1043 00:43:49,589 --> 00:43:47,599 so it's the acceptance the allowance i 1044 00:43:52,150 --> 00:43:49,599 allow you to be it doesn't require me to 1045 00:43:55,510 --> 00:43:52,160 allow you to be for you to be that's a 1046 00:43:57,430 --> 00:43:55,520 my head and so then we get then 1047 00:43:59,910 --> 00:43:57,440 we get to see the luster in things the 1048 00:44:01,589 --> 00:43:59,920 diamond which is i appreciate acceptance 1049 00:44:05,430 --> 00:44:01,599 allowance and appreciation 1050 00:44:06,870 --> 00:44:05,440 and this circle this interwoven 1051 00:44:08,309 --> 00:44:06,880 divine matrix 1052 00:44:10,870 --> 00:44:08,319 like stephanie's saying she's saying 1053 00:44:13,829 --> 00:44:10,880 basically 1054 00:44:15,349 --> 00:44:13,839 just fall forgive yourself love yourself 1055 00:44:18,470 --> 00:44:15,359 stop making things that are not 1056 00:44:20,309 --> 00:44:18,480 necessarily never were important 1057 00:44:22,550 --> 00:44:20,319 important any longer yeah 1058 00:44:23,750 --> 00:44:22,560 yeah yeah and these things create 1059 00:44:25,750 --> 00:44:23,760 anxiety 1060 00:44:29,510 --> 00:44:25,760 and depression and the reason they do is 1061 00:44:31,349 --> 00:44:29,520 because we go unconscious and the monkey 1062 00:44:33,349 --> 00:44:31,359 wants something 1063 00:44:35,670 --> 00:44:33,359 but we don't know that there's a monkey 1064 00:44:38,630 --> 00:44:35,680 and so we have to learn 1065 00:44:40,630 --> 00:44:38,640 that i had anxiety i would go outside at 1066 00:44:44,230 --> 00:44:40,640 three o'clock in the morning waiting for 1067 00:44:47,430 --> 00:44:44,240 nuclear bombs to hit my city 1068 00:44:48,550 --> 00:44:47,440 right yeah my skin was feeling my teeth 1069 00:44:50,870 --> 00:44:48,560 were 1070 00:44:52,790 --> 00:44:50,880 loose all these crazy things 1071 00:44:54,150 --> 00:44:52,800 and then when that girl of all those 1072 00:44:56,309 --> 00:44:54,160 years that 1073 00:44:57,670 --> 00:44:56,319 i was with for 10 years when she left 1074 00:44:59,349 --> 00:44:57,680 that brought me to the dark night of the 1075 00:45:00,150 --> 00:44:59,359 soul which we talked about earlier which 1076 00:45:02,550 --> 00:45:00,160 is 1077 00:45:07,510 --> 00:45:02,560 for many people it takes pain to shift 1078 00:45:11,990 --> 00:45:09,750 depression i was in it for two years 1079 00:45:14,550 --> 00:45:12,000 until i woke up one day and made a 1080 00:45:15,670 --> 00:45:14,560 choice of happiness i said this i'm 1081 00:45:17,430 --> 00:45:15,680 done 1082 00:45:18,470 --> 00:45:17,440 so happiness was a choice for me in that 1083 00:45:21,270 --> 00:45:18,480 moment so 1084 00:45:23,510 --> 00:45:21,280 tell me about you your clients and 1085 00:45:25,109 --> 00:45:23,520 anything you would like to offer myself 1086 00:45:27,030 --> 00:45:25,119 and i think everybody's still dealing 1087 00:45:29,670 --> 00:45:27,040 with some sort of anxiety and depression 1088 00:45:31,589 --> 00:45:29,680 on some levels because if not we would 1089 00:45:33,990 --> 00:45:31,599 truly all be exalted beings tell me 1090 00:45:36,870 --> 00:45:34,000 about your spin and your work around 1091 00:45:39,270 --> 00:45:36,880 anxiety and depression fees yeah well 1092 00:45:42,069 --> 00:45:39,280 you know the the easiest thing to think 1093 00:45:43,190 --> 00:45:42,079 about with with anxiety and depression 1094 00:45:46,470 --> 00:45:43,200 is that 1095 00:45:49,510 --> 00:45:46,480 if if you're worrying about the future 1096 00:45:52,069 --> 00:45:49,520 so your mind is in the future going over 1097 00:45:55,190 --> 00:45:52,079 worrying about different scenarios 1098 00:45:57,349 --> 00:45:55,200 that is anxiety and and our ego our 1099 00:45:59,349 --> 00:45:57,359 conditioned self tries to make us 1100 00:46:02,150 --> 00:45:59,359 believe that it's somehow useful or 1101 00:46:04,870 --> 00:46:02,160 helpful to prepare us by going over 1102 00:46:07,829 --> 00:46:04,880 these things but really all it does is 1103 00:46:11,109 --> 00:46:07,839 cause us suffering and dwelling in the 1104 00:46:13,349 --> 00:46:11,119 past going over the things that cannot 1105 00:46:15,510 --> 00:46:13,359 be changed that have already happened 1106 00:46:16,950 --> 00:46:15,520 that is how that is when we're in 1107 00:46:18,710 --> 00:46:16,960 depression is when we're in the past so 1108 00:46:20,630 --> 00:46:18,720 when we're in the past we're depressed 1109 00:46:23,910 --> 00:46:20,640 when we're in the future we're anxious 1110 00:46:25,990 --> 00:46:23,920 the only place that we are truly free is 1111 00:46:29,910 --> 00:46:26,000 in the present moment and so it's 1112 00:46:32,710 --> 00:46:29,920 learning how to be present and 1113 00:46:34,309 --> 00:46:32,720 comfortable and being uncomfortable 1114 00:46:36,470 --> 00:46:34,319 i love it 1115 00:46:41,510 --> 00:46:36,480 yeah 1116 00:46:43,190 --> 00:46:41,520 right so you you know that when you're 1117 00:46:44,470 --> 00:46:43,200 in the future it's because your thoughts 1118 00:46:46,150 --> 00:46:44,480 are worrying about something when you're 1119 00:46:48,069 --> 00:46:46,160 in the past it's because your mind is 1120 00:46:50,230 --> 00:46:48,079 dwelling in the past but 1121 00:46:52,790 --> 00:46:50,240 when you're present you're right there 1122 00:46:55,270 --> 00:46:52,800 experiencing your life and so you're 1123 00:46:57,750 --> 00:46:55,280 you're free in that moment and it's hard 1124 00:46:59,589 --> 00:46:57,760 i know it's hard to learn how to be 1125 00:47:01,910 --> 00:46:59,599 present because it requires us like you 1126 00:47:03,910 --> 00:47:01,920 were talking about to train our monkey 1127 00:47:07,270 --> 00:47:03,920 mind it requires us to learn how to be 1128 00:47:09,670 --> 00:47:07,280 in our body not in our mind and to learn 1129 00:47:11,589 --> 00:47:09,680 to you know just be present and a good 1130 00:47:14,069 --> 00:47:11,599 example is like when we're having a 1131 00:47:15,990 --> 00:47:14,079 conversation with someone be there with 1132 00:47:18,550 --> 00:47:16,000 them and really listen to what they're 1133 00:47:20,870 --> 00:47:18,560 saying be present rather than being in 1134 00:47:22,390 --> 00:47:20,880 your mind thinking about what you might 1135 00:47:23,430 --> 00:47:22,400 say next or maybe you're even thinking 1136 00:47:25,670 --> 00:47:23,440 about what you're going to have for 1137 00:47:28,390 --> 00:47:25,680 dinner but that's one way for people to 1138 00:47:30,150 --> 00:47:28,400 start right practice being present 1139 00:47:33,109 --> 00:47:30,160 you know sometimes and i totally get 1140 00:47:34,950 --> 00:47:33,119 that and sometimes uh i use the 1141 00:47:36,790 --> 00:47:34,960 opportunity with others 1142 00:47:39,349 --> 00:47:36,800 to 1143 00:47:42,230 --> 00:47:39,359 fi what helps me keep what helps keep me 1144 00:47:43,430 --> 00:47:42,240 present with those others is i find i am 1145 00:47:44,870 --> 00:47:43,440 still listening i don't have to look in 1146 00:47:46,790 --> 00:47:44,880 your eyes and watch your mouth move to 1147 00:47:48,069 --> 00:47:46,800 be listening i'll find a piece of 1148 00:47:50,150 --> 00:47:48,079 jewelry 1149 00:47:52,630 --> 00:47:50,160 or something out the way they smell the 1150 00:47:54,950 --> 00:47:52,640 way they talk and i'll stay with it 1151 00:47:57,109 --> 00:47:54,960 so that keeps me into them 1152 00:47:57,990 --> 00:47:57,119 and present and then i begin to follow 1153 00:48:00,069 --> 00:47:58,000 this 1154 00:48:01,349 --> 00:48:00,079 river that takes me deeper into that 1155 00:48:03,670 --> 00:48:01,359 person 1156 00:48:05,750 --> 00:48:03,680 and i begin to see themselves and myself 1157 00:48:07,589 --> 00:48:05,760 begin to change in the moment have this 1158 00:48:09,349 --> 00:48:07,599 deeper connection 1159 00:48:10,390 --> 00:48:09,359 one thing i would like to ask you in 1160 00:48:12,710 --> 00:48:10,400 closing and you can leave us with a 1161 00:48:15,589 --> 00:48:12,720 final thought and your contact and where 1162 00:48:21,190 --> 00:48:17,910 is what really helped me to understand 1163 00:48:22,549 --> 00:48:21,200 what anxiety is um we can tell people 1164 00:48:23,829 --> 00:48:22,559 this is what anxiety is it's being 1165 00:48:25,750 --> 00:48:23,839 afraid 1166 00:48:28,549 --> 00:48:25,760 the fear of the future and such things 1167 00:48:31,750 --> 00:48:28,559 like that but what simplified it for me 1168 00:48:33,750 --> 00:48:31,760 so i was able to see the spin 1169 00:48:35,829 --> 00:48:33,760 of the energy was 1170 00:48:38,630 --> 00:48:35,839 that we could see anxiety is not only 1171 00:48:43,430 --> 00:48:38,640 just being afraid anxiety is 1172 00:48:46,470 --> 00:48:43,440 afraid i'm afraid of being afraid 1173 00:48:48,710 --> 00:48:46,480 so it creates this ongoing biofeedback 1174 00:48:50,549 --> 00:48:48,720 loop for example being a musician from 1175 00:48:52,390 --> 00:48:50,559 all these years i know that if you take 1176 00:48:54,069 --> 00:48:52,400 a microphone and you put it close to a 1177 00:48:56,309 --> 00:48:54,079 speaker there's a feedback noise the 1178 00:48:58,710 --> 00:48:56,319 thing that makes everybody go 1179 00:49:00,549 --> 00:48:58,720 and so 1180 00:49:02,230 --> 00:49:00,559 what's happening is 1181 00:49:04,150 --> 00:49:02,240 the information from the microphone is 1182 00:49:05,829 --> 00:49:04,160 going into this speaker 1183 00:49:07,910 --> 00:49:05,839 out of the speaker into the microphone 1184 00:49:09,589 --> 00:49:07,920 out and it creates this loop and it gets 1185 00:49:12,470 --> 00:49:09,599 bigger and bigger bigger and that's 1186 00:49:14,790 --> 00:49:12,480 called feedback well with anxiety what 1187 00:49:15,750 --> 00:49:14,800 happens is when we are not in the heart 1188 00:49:20,309 --> 00:49:15,760 space 1189 00:49:22,069 --> 00:49:20,319 when this energy begins to 1190 00:49:23,109 --> 00:49:22,079 feed back like when you go hear a band 1191 00:49:24,630 --> 00:49:23,119 and doesn't know what they're doing with 1192 00:49:27,430 --> 00:49:24,640 the sound system 1193 00:49:29,670 --> 00:49:27,440 the body becomes bio feedback 1194 00:49:31,589 --> 00:49:29,680 into an anxiety spin 1195 00:49:32,390 --> 00:49:31,599 and it is not 1196 00:49:34,390 --> 00:49:32,400 fun 1197 00:49:37,190 --> 00:49:34,400 you're checking your pulse you're 1198 00:49:39,190 --> 00:49:37,200 feeling your heart you feel stuff moving 1199 00:49:42,470 --> 00:49:39,200 your body as if it's you know there's 1200 00:49:44,470 --> 00:49:42,480 air under your skin it's just hell 1201 00:49:46,470 --> 00:49:44,480 yeah there's nothing worse than any i 1202 00:49:48,630 --> 00:49:46,480 mean i'm i'm sure there is but it's like 1203 00:49:51,030 --> 00:49:48,640 some of the worst suffering ever right 1204 00:49:52,460 --> 00:49:51,040 that moment there's something 1205 00:49:54,710 --> 00:49:52,470 maybe a kidney stone 1206 00:49:56,150 --> 00:49:54,720 [Laughter] 1207 00:49:58,870 --> 00:49:56,160 would you like to leave us with a final 1208 00:50:01,030 --> 00:49:58,880 thought dear and how our beautiful tribe 1209 00:50:02,630 --> 00:50:01,040 can find more about you and what you do 1210 00:50:04,390 --> 00:50:02,640 i would love to i mean the most 1211 00:50:07,030 --> 00:50:04,400 important thing that i want people to 1212 00:50:08,710 --> 00:50:07,040 know is just that it doesn't matter 1213 00:50:11,990 --> 00:50:08,720 how 1214 00:50:14,150 --> 00:50:12,000 bad your life might feel right now or 1215 00:50:16,390 --> 00:50:14,160 what your circumstances look like or 1216 00:50:18,870 --> 00:50:16,400 what they have look like i want people 1217 00:50:21,430 --> 00:50:18,880 to know that it's possible for any human 1218 00:50:23,829 --> 00:50:21,440 being to find happiness to learn to love 1219 00:50:26,470 --> 00:50:23,839 them love and accept themselves 1220 00:50:29,270 --> 00:50:26,480 that that is possible for anyone and i 1221 00:50:32,870 --> 00:50:29,280 just i just really want people to to 1222 00:50:33,750 --> 00:50:32,880 know that and that it really just takes 1223 00:50:37,030 --> 00:50:33,760 um 1224 00:50:38,870 --> 00:50:37,040 the willingness and and also you know 1225 00:50:40,630 --> 00:50:38,880 shifting 1226 00:50:42,950 --> 00:50:40,640 being willing to do something different 1227 00:50:46,069 --> 00:50:42,960 one step at a time so i that's the thing 1228 00:50:48,870 --> 00:50:46,079 that i want people to know um and 1229 00:50:51,510 --> 00:50:48,880 come and find me on my website is 1230 00:50:53,270 --> 00:50:51,520 www.stephaniegrace.com 1231 00:50:56,589 --> 00:50:53,280 and stephanie doesn't have an e on the 1232 00:50:59,349 --> 00:50:56,599 end it's s-t-e-p-h-a-n-i 1233 00:51:01,190 --> 00:50:59,359 g-r-a-c-e and then my instagram is the 1234 00:51:03,990 --> 00:51:01,200 same that's where i'm most active and i 1235 00:51:06,309 --> 00:51:04,000 do a mindful minute um every day so 1236 00:51:08,150 --> 00:51:06,319 either a post or a video where i'm you 1237 00:51:09,829 --> 00:51:08,160 know helping people to stay on their 1238 00:51:11,990 --> 00:51:09,839 their path and maybe offer them 1239 00:51:14,470 --> 00:51:12,000 something to inspire them to do 1240 00:51:16,230 --> 00:51:14,480 something different um to help their 1241 00:51:19,030 --> 00:51:16,240 lives and so you can just search for me 1242 00:51:21,990 --> 00:51:19,040 on instagram by looking up stephanie 1243 00:51:24,790 --> 00:51:22,000 grace um and then my new book creating 1244 00:51:27,030 --> 00:51:24,800 real happiness a to z is is out now and 1245 00:51:29,109 --> 00:51:27,040 you can get it you can get it anywhere 1246 00:51:31,270 --> 00:51:29,119 pretty much so just search for that and 1247 00:51:34,309 --> 00:51:31,280 um and that is a 1248 00:51:36,390 --> 00:51:34,319 my book is a really approachable way for 1249 00:51:38,069 --> 00:51:36,400 you to begin working on self-love and 1250 00:51:39,910 --> 00:51:38,079 acceptance that's what it's about that's 1251 00:51:42,309 --> 00:51:39,920 what i why i wrote that that book it 1252 00:51:44,230 --> 00:51:42,319 offers all kinds of exercises in there 1253 00:51:46,069 --> 00:51:44,240 and hopefully you'll find some that 1254 00:51:48,309 --> 00:51:46,079 resonate for you that you can add to 1255 00:51:50,150 --> 00:51:48,319 your daily practice and help start 1256 00:51:52,069 --> 00:51:50,160 working on you know learning to love and 1257 00:51:54,150 --> 00:51:52,079 accept yourself and become you know come 1258 00:51:55,670 --> 00:51:54,160 back into your truth i love that mindful 1259 00:51:57,109 --> 00:51:55,680 minute that's just that's just so 1260 00:51:59,030 --> 00:51:57,119 perfect 1261 00:52:01,030 --> 00:51:59,040 how long has your book been out there it 1262 00:52:03,430 --> 00:52:01,040 just came out may 1st 1263 00:52:05,829 --> 00:52:03,440 congrats congrats yeah you always have 1264 00:52:07,589 --> 00:52:05,839 support here 1265 00:52:09,190 --> 00:52:07,599 yeah without a doubt anytime you have a 1266 00:52:11,190 --> 00:52:09,200 new project or just want to express 1267 00:52:14,069 --> 00:52:11,200 yourself in some way contact me 1268 00:52:15,750 --> 00:52:14,079 we'll hang out in public 1269 00:52:18,150 --> 00:52:15,760 drink or something 1270 00:52:19,670 --> 00:52:18,160 so you welcome me anytime really yeah 1271 00:52:21,190 --> 00:52:19,680 yeah i hope that i get to see and work 1272 00:52:23,030 --> 00:52:21,200 with you again i would love to such a 1273 00:52:25,510 --> 00:52:23,040 delight absolutely yeah and if you would 1274 00:52:26,710 --> 00:52:25,520 uh give me about one minute uh i'd like 1275 00:52:28,790 --> 00:52:26,720 to chat with you in the back side of the 1276 00:52:30,950 --> 00:52:28,800 green room good that sounds good thank 1277 00:52:32,710 --> 00:52:30,960 you wanda for everyone sooner or late 1278 00:52:36,630 --> 00:52:32,720 foundation radio good to see you keith 1279 00:52:39,430 --> 00:52:36,640 anthony blanchard here i love this thing 1280 00:52:41,349 --> 00:52:39,440 you are a jedi and awaken you're 1281 00:52:43,270 --> 00:52:41,359 actually more than that but we go 1282 00:52:46,710 --> 00:52:43,280 through the linear process we call life 1283 00:52:47,910 --> 00:52:46,720 enjoy your life even them what's not so 1284 00:52:50,150 --> 00:52:47,920 enjoyable 1285 00:52:52,309 --> 00:52:50,160 take it to another level another the 1286 00:52:53,510 --> 00:52:52,319 next level looks like you 1287 00:52:54,549 --> 00:52:53,520 when you can look in the mirror and say 1288 00:52:56,069 --> 00:52:54,559 i love you 1289 00:52:57,589 --> 00:52:56,079 and you don't hear the monkey say 1290 00:52:59,270 --> 00:52:57,599 something back 1291 00:53:00,710 --> 00:52:59,280 you're making correct choices higher 1292 00:53:02,710 --> 00:53:00,720 choices choices that lead you to the 1293 00:53:04,390 --> 00:53:02,720 barometer joy 1294 00:53:06,870 --> 00:53:04,400 is what every being in the universe 1295 00:53:09,190 --> 00:53:06,880 desires is the ultimate level of joy so 1296 00:53:13,190 --> 00:53:09,200 joy has to be the measurement stick 1297 00:53:15,589 --> 00:53:13,200 the more you feel joy in your being 1298 00:53:17,030 --> 00:53:15,599 you become a seeing one and a freeing 1299 00:53:18,870 --> 00:53:17,040 one dear lord 1300 00:53:20,790 --> 00:53:18,880 your life turns into 1301 00:53:23,190 --> 00:53:20,800 infinite possibilities you never thought 1302 00:53:24,549 --> 00:53:23,200 possible 1303 00:53:27,190 --> 00:53:24,559 keith anthony blanchard center of light 1304 00:53:29,360 --> 00:53:27,200 radio good to see you um tomorrow night 1305 00:53:33,750 --> 00:53:29,370 i am doing a presentation called 1306 00:53:37,510 --> 00:53:34,720 center of light 1307 00:53:39,430 --> 00:53:37,520 [Music] 1308 00:53:43,270 --> 00:53:39,440 inclusion 1309 00:53:51,380 --> 00:53:43,280 peace 1310 00:53:51,810 --> 00:53:51,390 [Music] 1311 00:54:08,360 --> 00:53:51,820 [Applause] 1312 00:54:08,370 --> 00:54:25,030 [Music] 1313 00:54:50,789 --> 00:54:28,080 stay inside